3 Important Lessons about Relationships and your Spirit

 

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I have some thoughts on the nature of relationships and would like to share something that was one of the biggest breakthroughs I have ever experienced. I have seen so many people struggling with this dynamic lately and it’s something that is potentially life changing. This may be a bit lengthy, but bear with me…. trust me, it’s worth it. There are 3 very important lessons I have learned recently.

Here is what I experienced:
I was experiencing tremendous fear and anxiety as the result of an incredible connection. This sounds strange, but I became so afraid that I was finding love only to inevitably lose it. The feeling of stress was palpable and overwhelming. It affected me physically.

Lesson #1 – The Subconscious Effect of Stories we tell Ourselves
I have been on a spiritual path for some time and have practiced meditation for years now. As a result, I was able to quickly realize that my feelings weren’t necessarily about the situation at hand… there was some deeper pattern involved. I asked to be shown the pattern, and it was like looking at a movie in fast forward. I realized that in my past when I had an important man in my life and then lost them through death, a breakup, or divorce, a period of darkness followed. My entire being was operating as if this story were true, that if I found love and lost it, darkness would follow. I was responding subconsciously to a belief that wasn’t true. It was incredible – the level of panic I experienced in my body was intense. However, as soon as I was able to see that this “story” I had been believing was not true, I was able to shift immediately. A change happened in an instant. I experienced relief at once.

You see, your entire reality can and will shift in an instant the moment you release false beliefs and stories!

Lesson #2 – My Heart Belongs to Spirit
Of course, life continues to show us lessons to be learned. Later in the week, I was experiencing fear and anxiety again. However, this time it was different. That night, I attended a mantra and meditation event led by dear friends. At one point, I was laying on the floor with my eyes closed after doing a heart opening exercise. Tears began streaming down my face. Again, like being struck by lightning, I was shown that in the past with each of the men that I had lost, I had attached my heart directly to theirs.

Hold on a minute… aren’t we supposed to give our heart to people? NO!!! I saw what looked like chords of light attached from my heart to theirs. I had become dependent on them for my happiness and wellbeing. I mentally visualized myself “cutting the chords” with each of them and took the time to mentally take responsibility for this unhealthy dynamic. I also mentally apologized to each of them and sent a prayer that they be happy and fulfilled. It was wrong of me to place such a demand upon them. I saw that I was repeating this again with my most recent connection. I very gently severed this chord as well and later apologized to him personally for making him feel in any way that he was responsible for my well-being. What I saw in the moment I did this was this chord of light come into my heart and shoot directly up to God. My heart belongs to the Divine.

You see, I will never again give my heart to another human being – family, friend or partner. This in no way means that I will not share love in my relationships with family, friends or my romantic partner. In fact, it means the exact opposite. I will share my love from a place of fullness and peace rather than expect or need to be fulfilled by them.

Lesson #3 – The Energetic Exchange in Relationships
The relationship dynamic that creates endless opportunities for growth, joy, passion, and love is such that both people are plugged into a source of love that is deeper than themselves. They both draw their individual power from this source and share the overflow between each other.

I had the understanding yesterday while speaking with someone who was experiencing difficulties in her relationship that what commonly happens is that one person will “connect” or “plug-in” to the other person as their source of happiness and power. While both may have felt full, happy with their life, and connected to their spiritual selves in the beginning, the feelings of love are so overwhelming that one or both people see the other person as their source of happiness. They stop doing their spiritual practice, taking care of their individual soul and finding a way to tap into something that charges them fully.

It’s a lot like charging your phone. Plugging into your spiritual practice through prayer, meditation, exercise, reading or doing things that fill your soul is like plugging yourself into a socket of spirit. Our beautiful world is a source of endless energy, inspiration and power. You are able to fully charge yourself and share your fullness with your partner. However, when one or both views the other as the source of their power, it’s like plugging the phone into your computer to charge it. If the computer is plugged into a socket, this will work for a while, but the power from the computer will still be redirected to charge the phone rather than using the power to fully charge the battery of the computer. If the computer is not plugged in, both devices will eventually be drained.

I have seen this over and over again recently with friends. One person becomes dependent on the other for their energy and power and it inevitably leads to the breakdown of the relationship and draining of both people.

Plug into the source and share the overflow!!!!

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Ganesha – Embodiment of Wisdom & Remover of Obstacles

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The Symbolism of Lord Ganesha​ – Wisdom Embodied & Remover of Obstacles

Today is a day in India called Ganesh Chaturthi – a day when we celebrate Ganesha. The “Gods” and “Goddesses” of ancient India are actually symbolic representations of laws of nature. The symbolism tells us how to align.

Ganesha represents wisdom and is known as the remover of obstacles. When we unlock the symbolism of Ganesha, we are shown how to access wisdom and how to remove “obstacles” in our lives.

Wisdom is demonstrated by the story of Ganesha. He is the son of Shiva, who represents consciousness. Shiva is the divine masculine energy – that abundant light and love that witnesses all of creation. It shines on all of us. We all have access to this light. It is what we are actually made of. The trouble is: we often forget or get clouded by thoughts, feelings, stories or patterns of behavior that keep us from tapping into the deepest source of who we are.

The mother of Ganesha is Parvati. She is divine feminine in the form of emotions, compassion and heart. Ganesha is the result of the coming together of masculine and feminine. Wisdom is the result of tapping into the source of consciousness and filtering it through the heart. When we connect to something outside of ourselves and allow that bigger truth to come through our heart, we see beyond the mind and body.

How do we do this? Well Ganesha rides on a mouse. First of all he is humble. No fancy vehicles needed here. We must humble ourselves and be of service. When we come from the pure desire to serve, we are delivered everything we could ever want.

The mouse also represents the part of our mind that likes to run wild. It will chew through everything in our lives if we don’t get it under control. The mind, if undisciplined, will drag us around like a dog on a leash. We must learn discrimination. We must identify the patterns of thought that are creating our external reality. We must exercise our mind in correct discrimination so that it is strong enough to uproot a tree and nimble enough to move a single blade of grass like the trunk of the elephant. Also, notice that the elephant is not squishing the tiny mouse. This wisdom, once cultivated, is not heavy. There is a lightness that comes when we live our lives in alignment with Ganesha.

Ganesha uses the axe to cut off all ties with ideas, thoughts, beliefs and attachments that do not serve us.

Finally, Ganesha is known as the remover of obstacles. I used to think this meant that the obstacles in life would be cleared away when I was living from a place rooted in wisdom. However, one day in meditation, it came to me. The “obstacles” that need to be removed are not outside of us at all. The only obstacles in life are internal beliefs, thoughts, emotions, patterns of behavior, reactions and shortcomings. It’s so true that our external reality is a reflection of our internal state.

For example: If you live under the false belief that you are not worthy or not good enough, you will notice and attract situations in your life that affirm that belief. Your thoughts are powerful things that shape your life. As soon as you realize that this belief is not true, your life will shift in an instant.

Therefore, let us not look outside ourselves and ask for life to be improved in any way. Let us ask to be shown any and all internal barriers from our own growth, happiness and fulfillment!!!

Om Mahaganapataye Namah

Expect Miracles

black holeOMG – Please excuse me while I freak out for a minute!!! – My students, clients and friends all know that I am definitely part nerd. My favorite class at the University of Colorado Boulder was an Astrophysics class on Black Holes…. This is where my mind started to be completely blown. Time & Space are relative??? YES. This is seriously a SPIRITUAL AWAKENING. I will explain:

My love of the science and technology of ancient India that comes from the Vedas comes from my scientific mind combined with my lifelong spiritual journey and studies. I started studying multiple religions including Christianity, Buddhism, The Baha’i Faith, Islam, Zoroastrianism… on and on at the age of 9 or 10. I was also guided by my father in my studies of physics and the universe. Both have shaped me into the person I am today. This mixture of science and spirituality is what made me fall in love with the Vedas. They explain this physical world in exactly the same way that Quantum Physics does.

However, modern science has taken another step. The article below just popped up on my facebook feed today. This theory/model affirms what the teachers from India have always taught. There are universes upon universes. So many realms and layers to this universe, we cannot fathom. My intuition has always told me that this universe and the consciousness that it is made of is WAY more incredible and magical than we could possibly know.

When I was in college, black holes were still theoretical. They are now an accepted fact of science. In fact, there is a black hole at the center of every galaxy. According to the best estimates of astronomers there are at least one hundred billion galaxies in the observable universe.

How does this impact our spiritual lives? We must expand our
mind to include the possibilities of things me can’t possibly imagine!!!!!!

Expect Miracles my friends!

http://www.forbes.com/sites/paulrodgers/2014/08/08/what-if-the-big-bang-was-a-4d-black-hole-instead/

Guru – That which removes darkness – Happy Guru Purnima 2015

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Guru Purnima is a very auspicious day in the Vedic Calendar.  Guru Purnima takes place in the month of Ashadha in the Vedic Calendar.  Guru Purnima is one of the most important celebrations of the year in India. It is the day that we honor Guru.   Guru means “that which removes darkness”.   

This year Guru Purnima takes place in Capricorn in the constellation of Shravana.   Shravana means “heard” or “one who listens”.  The full moon is the balancing point in the sun cycle that starts on the day of the new moon.   The current cycle we are in started in Cancer, which is all about connection, heart opening, emotions, and our connection to the collective.   When we start to learn about connections, we often find ourselves too intertwined with others.   This is the lesson of the full moon this Guru Purnima.   There is a balancing point between connection and solitude.   As always, there exists a paradox in spiritual lessons. In this case, we learn that true connection is not about reaching outside ourselves to have someone or something fill the hole in our lives.   When we look to others to fill us up, we detach in a way from the source of true connection which is spirit.   Therefore, when we get too dependent on others we start to feel empty, controlling, resentful and become a bit co-dependent.

The answer is to turn within and find the ability to fill ourselves up.   This can only come when we start to listen – using the power of Shravana.  When we use our ears, we can start to connect.  The eyes divide and distinguish.  The ears bring together, harmonize sounds, and tune in.   When we quiet the mind and listen, we can start to hear the truth – We are all one. Ultimately, there is no division.  We are full and perfect beings of spirit having a human experience.  There is nothing in the material world that can fill us up.   When we live from this truth, we don’t need anything from others.  We can be a cup overflowing.  However, the paradox is we can only find this connection through solitude.  We must go into ourselves alone – walk through the fear and darkness of our emotional inner landscape in order to find true connection.  When we discover this connection, we are able to have truly fulfilling relationships in all areas of our lives.   Today, let us honor those people, experiences and things that have assisted us in reaching this truth in our lives.

What is a Guru?

A Guru is not always a person.  It is people, events, experiences that serve us in the highest sense.  Guru removes darkness from our life and helps us wake up to the truth of our nature.  The truth is that we are all connected at a cellular level – we are love, light, and joy.  Guru is that which makes us evolve, expand, and grow.

Guru shows you possibilities for your life that you never even knew existed.

What in your life has helped you learn compassion, selflessness, forgiveness, surrender?

This is Guru.

Why do we need another thing, person or event to show us the way?  Can’t we just find it ourselves?  Aren’t we our own gurus?   To answer this question, I will turn to my Guru’s teacher, Sri Yukteswar, who said (paraphrasing) ~When we reach our destination, we can throw away the map.   Until that point, we need direction.  If we didn’t need direction, we would already be there~

It is true humility that allows us to see that we need direction and assistance to discover the truth within.  In this way, it is another paradox of this Guru Purnima that we must look to those experiences to teach us to go within so that we can truly form meaningful connection with others.

We must humble ourselves and bow.  I would not be who I am without the teachers in my life.  I am standing on the shoulders of giants.  I did not accomplish anything in my life without support, direction, and guidance.  It is my guides to whom I owe a debt of gratitude.   I am nothing without those that have come before and supported me along the way.

Today we stand with full hearts in deep gratitude to Guru.  We would not be who we are or where we are were it not for all of the teachers in our lives that have blessed us with grace, wisdom, truth, discipline and love.     Guru is wisdom and humility.

When I think of my teachers – my ancestors, my life experiences, my parents, my spiritual guru – It brings up so much reverence that I am filled with humility and gratitude.

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Andi Bond

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Music is the Soul of the Universe


Tonight is a very special date in the vedic calendar.  It is the final night of Navaratri.

Sept. 25 – Oct. 3

During Navaratri, which literally means “nine nights,” Devi is worshipped in her three main forms as Sri Saraswati Devi, Sri Lakshmi Devi, and Sri Durga Devi, also known as Sri Mahishasura Mardini. Thus, any meritorious acts performed during Navaratri brings every kind of blessing, including true devotion, spiritual knowledge, divine protection, and radiant energy.

During the auspicious days of Navaratri, the Divine Mother is in Her most gloriously radiant and compassionate form. She is forgiveness personified and showers Her unconditional love and blessings to all who approach Her during this sacred time…

The final 3 days culminate in the worship of the goddess Sri Saraswati Devi.

Gods and Goddesses in the Vedic society are not literally meant as separate gods and goddesses.  They are embodiments of laws of nature.   All of creation has a strings of code consisting of light, sound & consciousness that create the material world.   Just like strings of binary code in a computer make images and programs.

The rishis of ancient India, through a state of deep meditation, were able to perceive the strings of light and sound that make up this creation.   The language of Sanskrit was revealed as were the vedas.

The vedas are made up of mantras.   When chanted according to the rules of vedic chanting, we align with the subtle laws of nature.   The gods and goddesses are embodiments of laws of nature that have been depicted according to their corresponding mantra.

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This evening, as I chanted the Saraswati Mantra 108 times with a remarkable friend, I remembered my days in Choir.  We started to harmonize with the mantra and I was moved once again by the power of sound and music.

The goddess Saraswati is that law of nature that aligns us with knowledge, wisdom, and flow.  She teaches us how to access wisdom and flow with life.  She is a river.  Rivers don’t flow in a straight line.  They flow with the environment.  Like a current in a river, all we have to do is surrender and allow the water to carry us to our destination.

She plays an instrument called a vina… The long body of the instrument represents our spinal column.   The seven strings that she plucks correspond to the 7 chakras in our body.   The instrument also represents the power of music to heal and move us along our journey.  She rides on a swan.   A beautiful creature that floats above the muck of the world.

When we align with our purpose and surrender, we are able to tap into a beautiful flow of life.   All we have to do is let go.  All knowledge flows from this place.

Mozart was a beautiful example of this.   When asked about how he wrote such incredible music, as Agnus Dei – being performed above by the Choir of New College Oxford… He said he found the music.  It was already there.  All he had to do was tune into it.

When we come from a place of wonder and awe, we are able to align with all of life and find the music we are here to make.  The other thing I am reminded of is the power of a chorus of voices singing in harmony. It still moves me to tears.

Last weekend, I gave a workshop on Sanskrit.   The power of the language to help us access deep levels of peace was moving.   The group of us had the idea to share this with the world.   We started a group called Flash Chants – www.facebook.com/flashchants .   We plant seeds of peace with united voices rooted in the sacred knowledge of the vedas.

Why not?  There seems to be plenty of darkness in the world… time for some concentrated light!

Join us!

Om Shantih Shantih Shantih

May there be peace, peace, perfect peace

New Moon in Leo – August 2014

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Each new moon we have a chance to start anew.   It is the beginning of a cycle of the sun.   On the new moon, the sun and moon come together.   In Vedic Astrology, this day is called Amavasya.  It is a wonderful day for meditation, to go deep into your source of being and access that place of stillness that exists at your very core.

Each new moon begins a new cycle.  This month, the new moon takes place in the sign of Leo, specifically in the nakshatra of Magha.   Magha means, The Mighty, The Magnanimous, The Great, The Magnificent.  The symbol is the throne.   Magha is connected to the deities in the vedas called the Pitris – they are the ancestors – the bloodline.   The royal bloodline bestows the kingdom to the next rightful heir.

Magha also has a very mystical side to it.  Magha is ruled by the planet Ketu – the south node of the moon.   Magha has an ability to cut ties with the material world in order to ascend to higher planes of existence.   Kings have all of their needs taken care of so that they are fit for exploration of spirituality and enlightenment.

What does this mean for you?  This new moon is an opportunity to claim your power.  You have the ability to create your own kingdom in this world.

However, with great power, comes great responsibility.   The mark of a true king or queen is one who recognizes him/herself as a servant to the people.   What kind of leader do you want to be?  This is where bloodline comes in.  Through our lineage, we inherit certain traits, patterns, characteristics.  Much of the time, these carry on in our lives and are passed on to the next generation because they are conditioned within us.  I’m talking about our unconscious responses to the world.

Many are destined to continue on…”the sins of the father”.   However, right now, you have an opportunity to turn your attention inward.   Today you can take a moment and connect to the light that is within you.   Can you see it?  It’s a still point of peace, connectedness, compassion, love and light that is you.   When you turn your awareness inward to a place of meditation, you can liberate yourself and your ancestors.

It’s said that when one finds the path of meditation and yoga, they liberate 7 generations forward and backward in time.  This new moon is an opportunity for such liberation.

Look inside.  Hold onto the gifts you were given through your various lineages.   Plant seeds that carry these on.   At the same time, bless all those who came before you and brought you to this exact moment in time.  Release and forgive.

Sacred systems of Jyotisha and Vedic Astrology on Transcendental Transformation Radio Show

I was honored to be on Transcendental Transformation Radio Show today  to discuss the origins and enlightened knowledge of Vedic Astrology and Yoga.  .  You can listen to the show if you missed it live.   Just click on the link below

 

Sacred systems of Jyotisha & Vedic Astrology w/ Andi Bond on TTRS! 05/27 by Transcendental Transformation | Lifestyle Podcasts.